Why has nobody told me this before?

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#CuriousMoments with Advita

Stop scrolling for two minutes and take a deep breath.

How are you feeling today?

From the chats I’m having, things seem to be feeling heavy right now. Budgets are being cut, change seems everywhere, resources are tight, and there appears to be conflict everywhere you turn.

All this is contributing to people feeling a bit rubbish.

But how do you manage this feeling?

I love Dr Julie’s work and her book Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? In there, she shares a sentence:

“We cannot directly choose our emotions and switch them on, but we can use the things we can control to change how we feel.”

Boom ????

Read that sentence again. We can’t directly choose our emotions, but we can use what WE control to change how we feel.

This resonated with me. So when I feel stuck, and my mood is not where I need it to be, I change my environment and what I’m doing.

I slow down my thoughts and do something different. Like taking time to get outside, read a book, change tasks, listen to music, talk to a friend or even journal some of my thoughts.

I also give myself a rating on how my mood is every morning. This helps me identify what I need to do for the rest of the day so I can tip the balance in my favour. For example, if I’m five or below, I make sure I put more breaks in my day to have micro moments of joy.

Find what works for you, but please never fear sharing how you’re doing. It’s important.

So I’m genuinely asking, how are you feeling, and what one thing are you going to do for yourself this weekend?

 

Originally posted on LinkedIn, Follow me for more curious moments.

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Advita Patel

Advita Patel is the founder of CommsRebel, an award-winning internal communications consultancy. She helps organisations globally navigate change, strengthen workplace culture and create better
employee experiences through effective internal communications.

With more than two decades of experience in internal communications, Advita is a Chartered PR Practitioner, CIPR Fellow, qualified coach and Cultural Intelligence (CQ) certified facilitator. She works with leaders and internal communication teams to build confidence, strengthen their influence and communicate through change with greater clarity.

In 2025, Advita served as President of the Chartered Institute of Public Relations (CIPR), becoming the first person of colour to hold the position in its 75-year history. She is also the award-winning, best-selling co-author of Building a Culture of Inclusivity and the author of Decoding Confidence: The Seven Habits of Confident Leaders.

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