Kindness over achievements

Published: 1 August 2023

#CuriousMoments with Advita

I’d rather be known for my kindness than my achievements.

As much as I’m fiercely proud of my achievements, it’s important to me that people always feel uplifted and energised after they’ve spent some time with me, even when I have to have an uncomfortable or difficult conversation.

As a confidence and influence coach, I often ask my coachees to discuss their careers – highlights and lowlights. This helps me identify where they may have experienced confidence crashes. 99% of the time, the biggest confidence crash has been down to someone else’s behaviour towards them.

It’s okay to disagree with someone’s view or opinion. It’s okay not to want to spend time with someone who doesn’t align with your values, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself. But tearing someone down and making them feel worthless is not okay.

I understand when things are tough, and life is stressful, we may not think about our behaviour around others. But it’s essential to remember that even if it were a passing remark or a short outburst, the lasting impact on them will be significant.

It isn’t about being a pushover, but kindness does go beyond niceness as it stems from genuine empathy and compassion so that you can make a positive difference in someone’s life.

I’ll leave you with this Maya Angelou quote 👇🏽

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”


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