Kindness over achievements

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I’d rather be known for my kindness than my achievements.

As much as I’m fiercely proud of my achievements, it’s important to me that people always feel uplifted and energised after they’ve spent some time with me, even when I have to have an uncomfortable or difficult conversation.

As a confidence and influence coach, I often ask my coachees to discuss their careers – highlights and lowlights. This helps me identify where they may have experienced confidence crashes. 99% of the time, the biggest confidence crash has been down to someone else’s behaviour towards them.

It’s okay to disagree with someone’s view or opinion. It’s okay not to want to spend time with someone who doesn’t align with your values, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself. But tearing someone down and making them feel worthless is not okay.

I understand when things are tough, and life is stressful, we may not think about our behaviour around others. But it’s essential to remember that even if it were a passing remark or a short outburst, the lasting impact on them will be significant.

It isn’t about being a pushover, but kindness does go beyond niceness as it stems from genuine empathy and compassion so that you can make a positive difference in someone’s life.

I’ll leave you with this Maya Angelou quote ????????

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

 

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Advita Patel

Advita Patel is the founder of CommsRebel, an award-winning internal communications consultancy. She helps organisations globally navigate change, strengthen workplace culture and create better
employee experiences through effective internal communications.

With more than two decades of experience in internal communications, Advita is a Chartered PR Practitioner, CIPR Fellow, qualified coach and Cultural Intelligence (CQ) certified facilitator. She works with leaders and internal communication teams to build confidence, strengthen their influence and communicate through change with greater clarity.

In 2025, Advita served as President of the Chartered Institute of Public Relations (CIPR), becoming the first person of colour to hold the position in its 75-year history. She is also the award-winning, best-selling co-author of Building a Culture of Inclusivity and the author of Decoding Confidence: The Seven Habits of Confident Leaders.

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