For the past couple of weeks work has been very busy which has meant my weekly musings have taken a back seat lately. However, whilst I have a few minutes I thought I’d clear the cobwebs and reflect for a bit.
Today’s blog isn’t anything new or revolutionary but just my thoughts and general perceptions. Recently I’ve been involved in many conversations with friends around the topic of confidence. These conversations centred mostly around confidence in their own ability. I like to think I’m a confident person, sure I have moments of uncertainty but generally I’m a strong believer in my own skills and I know I am good at what I do. This isn’t me being cocky or arrogant, I know this because I have worked really really hard to get to where I am today.
I spend hours everyday working, learning and developing – I never really switch off and that’s because I really love what I do. However, I’m not unique in this, many of my friends and colleagues are also hard workers and are great at what they do but for some reason some of them really struggle to see how amazing they truly are. They constantly think that they are lucky to be in that role, and continuously worry that other people must think they didn’t deserve the post. When you dig a bit deeper on why they feel that way, it’s generally down to a flippant comment or a remark someone made in passing.
Now I’m all for constructive feedback – as long as it adds value. Telling someone something is rubbish but then not telling them why is not helpful. Or commenting on someone’s behaviour without any valid evidence to back it up is not appropriate. Most of us want to continue to develop and grow. We are all adults in the workplace so it’s important people are treated with respect regardless of what role they are in.
So a message to my wonderful friends and to people reading this blog: Never forget who you are and believe in yourself more. You have worked hard to get to where you are, so please don’t allow anyone to dull your sparkle. You’re all amazing people and you truly deserve whatever good comes your way – please remember that!